A mate and I were talking one time and (although I didn’t realise it until quite some time later after replaying it a few times in my head) he broke down. I feel really bad because I was just too dumb (insensitive maybe) to realise it at the time – he was wearing sunnies and we’d just been for a run and I thought he got sweat in his eyes (no, really, it’s embarrassing but I did). Also he was fighting it hard and got a lid on it fast, but I feel bad that I didn’t respond correctly. Not that I’m sure what the correct response would have been, it’s uncharted territory for me but I could have done pretty much anything better.

I think it’s essential that you’re keeping the door open. I eventually figured out that even though I felt wronged, I had to forgive (in my head, without them seeking forgiveness). I was surprised at what a difference it made to me personally. Hopefully your little sister can get there one day.